About Monica
From Self-Sabotage to Self-Love
Hi, I’m Monica Fletcher
A Conscious Evolution Facilitator, speaker, and coach.
But before I was any of those things, I was a woman walking blindly through my own life. From the outside, I looked put together: career changes, public speaking, relationships. I knew how to wear the mask. But inside? I was stuck.
I repeated patterns I didn’t understand. I chased success I couldn’t hold onto. I tried to find love but kept sabotaging it.
I didn’t know it at the time, but I was being run by unconscious conditioning — old stories, beliefs, and emotional habits I had picked up long ago. I wasn’t broken. I just didn’t yet know who I really was.
That’s where this work began.
This Work Changed Everything
I found my way into personal transformation when I first started waking up to myself. I began to notice my emotional triggers and unravel the old stories that had shaped my life.
Eventually, I created my own model for transformation — the Conscious Evolution Framework — a four-part process that helps people awaken to their patterns, remember where they came from, build emotional mastery, and embrace themselves with honesty and love.
This isn’t about collecting achievements or chasing perfection.
It’s about becoming your own best friend.
This work walked me through not liking myself… to unconditionally loving my magnificent self. It still makes a difference in my life every single day.
“The Day I Owned My Inner Bitch”
One moment I’ll never forget happened early in my journey. I was in a group session, struggling to describe myself in one word. The facilitator turned to me and said, “Monica, you are a bitch.”
It hit me like a ton of bricks — and I cried.
But then something shifted. I saw that there are two types of bitch: a bitch to hurt, and a bitch to heal. That realization changed everything. I stopped apologizing for being direct, strong, and passionate. I began owning the part of me that fights fiercely for people — not against them. I became the “bitch to heal,” and I’ve never looked back.
Why I Do This Work
Because I lived it.
For years, I unknowingly withheld love from myself. I craved validation, performed to please others, and made choices rooted in fear. Now, I live in deep presence — and from that place, I coach others.
I’ve had the privilege of working with people at all stages of life:
An executive who once feared asking for a raise now earns over 3x his original salary.
• Deep Self-Awareness • Understanding Who You Are • Inner Peace • Being True to Yourself • Mental Freedom • Emotional Clarity
What Guides Me
- NUnconditional self-love changes everything.
- N100% responsibility is the gateway to freedom.
- NIntegrity means your insides match your outsides.
- NBeing right is often the enemy of being connected.
- NAnd above all: Gratitude is the best attitude.
Who I Am Today
Today, I live on the shores of Lake Erie with my husband. Ours is a love story that took time, patience, and deep personal growth — but it’s now a joyful, lasting partnership over 16 years strong.
I’m a proud mom to two grown children who are the loves of my life — and now, my best friends. I cook, garden, read, entertain, and still find myself awestruck by the birds outside my window. Life is quieter, simpler… and so much richer when you live it awake.
Here’s How toWork With Me
Book a Free Discovery Call
Let’s start with a conversation. We’ll explore where you are, what you are hoping to get, and whether this work is the right next step for you.